Jaw tension- shifting our story.

Tension in the jaw, 

Recently I've been joining the online Wananga of Timoti Pahi who holds the Rongomamau teachings from Papa Delamaire Hohepa.

This style of learning encourages wisdom to be ignited through one's individual lens and is not stagnant but continuously growing. Suggesting our learning feeds into the field of awareness and continues to grow and expand not just individually but collectively.

So my understanding is my own I respectfully would like to honor this lineage that allows me to grow, adding richness depth and to my life. However I acknowledge any lack of awareness that may not fully honor the depth of this work, is reflective of where I am sitting within the ever unfolding learning, of my personal understanding.

May this medicine continue to emerge, remain potent and reveal itself to those hearts ready to listen.

Timoti's generous teachings encourage us to become aware of the living energetic field of memory which continues in the atmosphere which surrounds us. In a sense asking us to become aware of the atmosphere we have been raised within, which has become our personal atmosphere. We must consider the importance of what has been said to us, or reassuring love not given. And what we continue to say to ourselves.

As this field of living memory holds the frequency becoming our perspective. And will attract experiences via resonance.

I've certainly owned a 'no bad vibes' -slogan Tee. But I came to realize we (myself included) all have negative self talk and judgement towards ourselves and others. It's important to become aware of our internal dialogue so we can begin to choose how we talk to ourselves, and learn to respectfully honor others and our differences. Which in turn shifts how we experience ourselves within the greater matrix of life.

Below is an example of a pattern I see play out in people. You may see parts of your own story within the example. If so, I hope it's helps you to be kinder and more empathetic towards yourself. So you may gift yourself the devotional tending of kind, generous and compassionate words.

My client sits before me tense and aching. Their jaw reveals all the things they cannot say, all the ways they hold back from speaking their truth.

Afraid perhaps they'll break their oath "I would never do that, I'd never be like them", the vows and oaths of a child. That same inner child who sits before me now, in a grown up body, grief stricken and still powerless to speak up.

Because they learnt not too.

It wasn't received, it wasn't safe.

There were enough 'big emotions' living in their home.

And no space for theirs.

So they starting holding back.

So as not to burden anyone.

To keep the peace.

And in the quiet they heard, your no good.

We don't care.

You are not precious.

It wasn't always said with words.

But you could feel it pricking and rippling through the air.

Ancestral wounds can travel here too, through the atmosphere.

It has become the soup you've still swimming in,  you...weird kid. Who said the wrong thing, did the wrong thing, wrong sex, wrong shape, wrong colour. Your ugly, stupid, dumb.

" YOUR All WRONG!"

We worry about what is in our blood, our bones, our DNA. Our physical body is the hardware the inherited blueprint in form. We now know we can lift and affect our genes through movement, diet and supplements. By adjusting our mindsets with the support of talking therapy, mindfulness and bodywork.

There is an evolving field of research to support this understanding of our epigenetics, providing powerful hope for autonomy through conscious living -making informed choices.

Yet our atmosphere is the software, the static we attune too. The energy guiding our world view that will provide the impetus for us to even want to make better choices. What may begin as a feeling thoughts and words, (becomes our self talk) impressing apon us and can move into our bodies both positively and negatively.

Our thought field also effects groups of people creating a program with a prescriptive script. An atmosphere in which others play roles in response to what we are exuding. You could think of this as magnetism, or mirroring.

This is another way of recognizing our life is relational, it is empowering to consider how our life experience can be improved apon by practicing a soft, caring and compassionate 'inner tone' towards ourselves.

I'd also like to acknowledge Allison Davies from Music and the Brain she introduced me to 'parentese' during covid... She encourages talking to your small self or vulnerable, abandoned parts, with the quality or tone of voice of your most ideal parent might use. Or using the hushed and infinitely supportive voice we tend to reserve for babies and puppies.

This was part of the teaching from Wananga, and this was the transformation request of jaw tension.

To learn not to hold down the truth of our inner being, we must first begin to encourage ourselves into presence. To not have ourselves hidden behind a chorus of other people's tones. We must sing and entice ourselves into wakeful awareness one kind self encouragement at a time.

The Jaw- Raising the self talk and creating a positive field of energy around you. To adjust the inherited programing and restore your truth.

Imagine yourself as a baby or small child,  how would you like to be spoken too?

Consider the kind and encouraging words you might use.

Hear the soothing gentle tone.

Further insights for self reflection. (listed)

Our jaws are linked to our hips, our foundation and safety.

Our capacity to express ourselves.

Our throat chakra -our the bridge between logical mind and emotional heart.

Our jaws are the lock for the masks we wear to find (false) safety and belonging.

We hide our emotions here.

Yet our power and charisma reside here too.

We assess, we chew over, we sharpen our teeth and we swallow our venom.

Our jaws are linked to the quality of intimacy and connection we feel.

How much we believe we will be received by others.

Our mouths are a portal towards our inner world and how much we can accept the world around us. What we can take in, what we hold back.

Our rage, our love, our senses.